Are you exhausted from having the same fight over and over again with your partner?
Do you wish you could have your best friend back?
It’s been two days and you’re still not talking. It feels like the harder you try, the worse it gets. You’re not even sure how things got this bad, or how to make them better. You’re tired of sleeping in separate rooms.
You wish things were back to the way you were, when you started dating. The first few years you felt so connected. Now you feel lonely and frustrated. Sometimes you think about leaving, but you’ve invested too much to walk away.
When we’re fighting with our partner, it’s hard to think about anything else. Our world becomes consumed with replaying the situation over and over, and we have little patience for the daily struggles of life.
You might find couples therapy helpful if:
- You keep having the same argument over and over with little resolution
- You feel disconnected and are not sure how to get the spark back
- You have experienced a major hurt or betrayal (including infidelity and pornography addiction)
- You have a good relationship but want to strengthen your connection
John Gottman–over the course of 40 years—found that long-term relationships are based on a deep friendship, ability to manage conflict, and the creation of shared meaning and goals. I work with clients to rebuild their relationships by developing all three of these areas.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy is a short-term structured approach to couples therapy based on attachment research. The goals of this therapy are to expand and re-organize the emotional responses of couples to create a secure bond between partners. Research has found that 75% of couples move from distress to recovery in therapy, and approximately 90% show significant improvements. I consider it a great honour and responsibility to support people with the most intimate and vulnerable aspects of their lives.
I can help you to:
- Decrease conflict
- Recapture the connection you once had
- Develop new tools and strategies for communication
What’s the next step?
A couples assessment involves a 1 hour meeting and completion of an online questionnaire (completed outside of our session). The assessment process is designed to be thorough while saving up to 3 hours of additional session time.
In our initial 1 hour session, I will gather information from you as a couple and meet with you individually for about 10 minutes each. Sometimes if there is more information to gather, we may meet individually for a 1 hour session.
In the second session, I will share the results of your assessment and we will begin to work on your goals.
If you are interested in the Gottman method and couples therapy, please check out my video gallery.